Tuesday, October 28, 2008

To Gain is Pain?

"We build walls around our hearts to protect us from anyone on the outside getting in to hurt us. But that same wall which keeps people out, keeps us stuck inside."
-A fren, Pelupa Kawan-

Many times we try not to reveal so much of ourselves
cos we may tink dat de more ppl know bout us,
de higher risk there is for us to get hurt..
we're simply afraid...
But wat we sometimes do not realize is,
de thicker the wall we build around ourselves,
we're actually keeping ppl who really care away...

And so we learn to open up ourselves more..
When we finally do dat,
there comes another saying that goes like dis...

"The closer you come to somebody, the greater potential there is for pain."
-Cicak Man-

So tell me,
how shud we guard our hearts so dat we will not be hurt?
And at the same time, open our hearts to receive some love?
Hmmmmm......
Where do we draw the line?

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

never try never know,never lose never gain

Anonymous said...

I forgot how I stumbled upon your blog... but just thought I'd leave my two cents in regards to this post of yours...

After reading what you wrote, it just occurred to me once again how great Jesus is. Most of the time, we keep thinking of ways to allow love, but not to allow hurt, where to draw the line... but imagine how it was for Him who died on the cross for us because of love. I don't think He drew any lines - as a matter of fact - because of His sacrifice, He erased the one line that separates God from us. He is willing to go through hurt and pain because of love. How noble is that??

Probably one of the most famous Bible verses in 1 Corinthians, I specially like the verse 7, where it says: "It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

I guess at some point we're bound to get hurt. Even more by people we love. But I guess if that love is true, at the end of the day, everything's gonna be okay. Life's a risk. If you've never failed, you've never lived.

Anonymous said...

question is: are the people you call friends worth being less self centered that we open up that risk of getting hurt, by them.

yapster said...

no.... the question is... when are we going jogoya

Aik Han said...

When it comes to LOVE. Being hurt is common since it is not a one way relationship. Most important is you are able to stand up again and move forward.

Even when 2 people are together for several years, break up still can happen. Just open your heart to a person that is willing to listen to your heart and also share his heart with you. Break the communication barrier between each other can reduce the chance of getting hurt.

Anonymous said...

that is a good question. but yap, when are u getting ur pay and belanja-ing the poor me who is still studying?

yapster said...

mervin: wth, u asking me to pay your meal? halo, i one month work like hell oni earn small little penny. you go strum your guitar a few time can earn my pay for few months adi. summore, got new job coming in. my job stagnant wan leh. boring, cannot earn much more wan. how to belanja u?
i ask you give me the N series u dun wan... ahhaah

Anonymous said...

when we change our perspective and focus of our relationship away from ME.

Coz when you love someone as he/she is, you love him/her completely, not loving him totally only when he/ she changes to someone WE want to love.

 
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