Island trip to Pulau Sapi
From left : John, Kimmay, Me, The Bf, Shereen,Tim,Chris
On Christmas Eve, I had my first Gingerbread house at John's
The house was so beautiful dat we din know where or how to start eating it
We had to call for help...
It always protects, always trusts,always perseveres...Love never fails.
From left : John, Kimmay, Me, The Bf, Shereen,Tim,Chris
Dr Mahathir Mohamad introduces a photo of a child victim of war on display while delivering his speech at the "Expose War Crimes, Criminalise War" International Conference and Exhibition in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, Feb. 5, 2007. Mahathir accused George W. Bush and Tony Blair of being more evil and worse murderers than Saddam Hussein and the Sept. 11 attackers. In some of his most blistering insults against the U.S. and British leaders, Mahathir said their war in Iraq had caused worse terror than al-Qaida's suicide bombers around the world. (AP Photo)
Dr Mahathir Mohamad tries to hold back his tears after his last speech at the general assembly of the ruling United Malays National Organization (UMNO) as Malaysia's prime minister, before his retirement. Kuala Lumpur, Thursday June 19, 2003. (AP Photo)Jonker Walk Night Market b4 we drove back to KL
What a wonderful trip!!
By forgiving the people who hurt us, we are not erasing painful past experiences from our memory. We cannot forget, nor should we. Those experiences, and even the pain they caused, have a great deal to teach us, both about not being victimised again and about not victimising others.
When we forgive, we lessen the past's impact on our present and future, but this does not alter the fact that the injuries and injustices we experienced were painful and unfair when the ordeal occurred originally. Forgiving the people who hurt us does not mean we are saying that what was done was in any way acceptable. In fact, true forgiveness cannot occur while we are in any way denying, minimising, justifying or condoning the actions that harmed us.
Forgiveness does not give us the right to get all self-righteous and to play God, temting though it may be. It does not let the people who have hurt us off the hook. We do not absolved them of all responsibility for their actions, and one day, they will have to make their own peace with their past.
Forgiveness is not martyrdom, tolerance or "being nice". There is no such thing as half hearted forgiveness. We either forgive or we don't.
Forgiveness cannot be forced, and no matter how sincerely we want to let go of the past, we cannot schedule it to happen next week, next month or even next year. Forgiveness is what happens naturally as a result of confronting painful past experiences and healing old wounds.
Adapted from Forgiveness : How To Make Peace With Your Past and Get on With Your Life by Sidney and Suzanne Simon
"Forgiveness is all about working through the unfinished business, letting go of the pain and moving in for your sake. You forgive so that you can finally get rid of the excess emotional baggage that has been weighing you down and holding you back; so you can be free to do and be whatever you decide"
Learning to forgive will save you a whole lot of money, time and unhappiness, because you don't forgive the other person for his sake; you forgive for yourself.